How do you know when to walk away from a job, situation, or any event in your life where you may be struggling?
I once worked with an older man, close to retirement. He gave me probably the most valuable piece of advice I have ever received. My co-worker said, “You will always make the right decision, because at the time, it was the right decision for you“. He gave me this advice when I was trying to decide if I wanted to walk away from a 12 year career, only eight years away from full retirement. The point was, that no matter what decision I made, it was going to be the right one. Do you know how much stress this took off?! I did not have to stay in a career where I was terribly burnt out, just because most people would have stayed.
As you might have guessed, I did walk away. I now work in a dive shop, making barely enough to live on, but so much more content with my life. An instance where I have decided to stick it out, is my jujutsu.
I have been doing Danzan-Ryu Jujutsu, off and on, for a few years now. Due to my lack of consistency, I learn slower than my peers. We are a small dojo made up of mostly middle-age males; I am the only female (story of my life). My peers are, on average, 250 pounds, while I average 155 pounds. I am a Blue belt working on my Nage list. This is our first opportunity/introduction into throwing. I have really been struggling with some of the throws on the list, specifically Ogoshi. Ogoshi is one of the technically easier throws. However, I am having trouble overcoming the 100 pound difference. However, the other night we worked on a few different throws, and I nailed them! (Insert happy dance here!) I came home totally stoked with my chi off the charts. I needed the success. If I would have never stuck with going to class, I would have never achieved the success.
This same logic could have applied to my career. Yet, I made the right decision to walk away, because at the time it was the right decision for me.
So when you reach those forks in the road, make well thought out and researched decisions, but at the end of the day, you will make the right decision.